IVF or Adoption?

Published November 20, 2012 by reachandflexibility

Pre-emptive thinking here by far but soon I’ll be starting my second round of Clomid. Then it will most likely be seeing if my tubes even work. If they do it will be IUI (Which I doubt we can afford) and then most likely IVF. That could be what? A year away? Yeah 25 I know…Young and it could happen and relax and it will happen.. Try being in this position and then give advice. I’m not being a pessimist that it won’t work I’m just preparing myself so that if it does happen I know which way to turn without all the drama.

So which to choose. IVF is expensive and barely covered by insurance over here. That would mean saving for a long while, going through a shit load of hormone injections, scans, sciencey stuff basically turning me into one huge petri dish. Even then the chances of it working are not 100%. I don’t know if I could accept that sort of let down.

Then there is adoption. The recommended choice by all people who have no clue what it’s like to be infertile. It’s not a bad choice, I’m not saying that at all. I’m just saying they need to really think before they speak. Pluses it does work. It gives a home to a child who may not have been wanted. It does however take years of paperwork, being thrown through hoop after hoop trying to prove you’d be a good parent before even being given the chance to show you could be. How much worse could a person be than half the scum who reproduce naturally anyways?

Then there is the third choice. The unspeaken choice. We give up. We accept a life of just the two of us, the waps and the pets. The pets we will lose, like we did poor Flyve the other night (Hammy). I accept that my fate on this planet, my dream, was not to become a mother but instead to live out my life working, living for replacements. Others may not want children and that I understand, they however will not be spending the rest of their lives dreaming of what they could never get.

This isn’t a negative post more myself trying to structure my mind. It’s also a little advice to people who might not get the inner workings of an infertile’s mind.

On a more positive note, Christmas is coming soon and that means good movies on the TV and snow… Well hopefully some snow.

 

Movies like so πŸ˜€

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2 comments on “IVF or Adoption?

  • I’ve been mulling this over, too. I totally agree- adopting is NOT nearly as easy as people make it out to be. The people who say “Just adopt!” usually have no idea about the cost, the waiting, the heartbreak. But adoption is definitely a good thing- it’s just not the solution for everybody.

    Hang in there, and I hope you have some luck soon.

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